Throughout life, we use the word grief to describe a wide range of responses to an even wider range of circumstances. But what actually is grief? Grief is a natural response to a change or loss of something you once had in your life or to something you wanted but...
I didn’t grow up with abuse of any kind, but I married it, once. It’s taken me years to understand and define the damage caused by emotional toxins. Like environmental toxins that slowly destroy the earth, these toxins pollute the body, soul, and spirit causing a slow...
I had always been a calm person. In the home where I grew up, no one yelled. Even when my mother called my brother and me in for dinner, she didn’t scream for us. When I became an adult, I realized not everyone’s the same, especially during a divorce. My...
The moment I accepted that my ex-husband and I were fundamentally different was similar to the moment I accepted Christ into my heart. Before this one pivotal conversation with my ex, I found myself trapped in a deprivation box — no light, no growth, no hope — until...
Christian or not, divorce can be a dirty deal. Even the title of this blog is anxiety-provoking. “How to deal” already suggests that you better take a seat at the card table, for some win at this game and some lose. If you are divorced or going through a...
I’m not sure at what age I learned that having two to three glasses of wine at night was enough to get me to fall asleep. I think it was early, like in my teens, after my non-drinking parents divorced and then remarried spouses that drank. Dinners with my new...
